Time for Renewal : A Shower Ritual

THE SELF ACTUALIZED WOMAN … has a special relationship with her body.


She is connected to the Moon and her Womb. She knows the time of the New Moon and bleeding are auspicious time to release the old and prepare for the new. What follows is a simple Cleansing Ritual that I learned from a Grandmother in Guatemala

It consists in showering or bathing with the intention to release any blockages on the 13 sacred joints.

BEFORE YOU START. Find your own words to set the intention. For example for the Left Ankle: I release everything that’s holding me back on my spiritual path. I now walk feeling guided and being taken care of. 

WHEN YOU ARE READY. With the right temperature, candles, flowers, incenses or anything else that makes this time sacred for you … we intent to release in the following order: 

Left Ankle: Spiritual Path; Connection with Mother, Motherhood, Earth, Spiritual Nourishment

Right Ankle: Physical, Career Path; Connection with Mother, Motherhood, Earth, Physical Nourishment

Left Knee: Spiritual Growth; Feeling Submissive

Right Knee: Material Growth; Partnerships for Growth; Obligation to be Submissive

Left Hip: Spiritual Advancement; Direction; Walking in Company of others

Right Hip: Physical, Career and Partnership Advancement; Direction; Independence

Left Shoulder: Spiritual Support

Right Shoulder: Partner and Family Support

Left Elbow: Dedication to spiritual activities; feeling loved; Communication

Right Elbow: Work, Career; feeling loved; Communication

Left Wrist: Security; Protection; Relationship with Father or Authority

Right Wrist: Work (small tasks – details); Relationship with Father or Authority

Neck: Communication, Connection with Higher Self


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MINDFULNESS & PMS : accepting your cycle

The longing of a woman to feel connected with her nature, her creative forces, her body and her place in nature can often express itself in negative behavior if it is ignored. By returning to the intelligence and wisdom of her own body she is able to restore this connection, a sense of belonging and authenticity. She feels resourceful to shred her rigid identity to external achievements and re-create herself in a more holistic way, experiencing a new sense of wholeness and well-being .

Painful memories, negative thoughts and emotions simply reinforce the physical pain that a woman is experiencing every month.

One of the practices of the Self-Actualized Woman involves embracing her womb and cyclical nature to better live up to her potential every month, every day.


Lay down somewhere comfortable, wearing comfortable clothes, light some candles and soft incense or burning oil if you wish. Bringing your awareness to your physical body through your breath, feeling the expansion and contraction of your abdomen as you breathe in and out. Relax by breathing like this for a few moments, becoming aware of the pain and /or tension, and staying fully receptive of it. Place your hands gently where there is pain and/or tension. Now you can feel it even more. Breathe in those places : breath in gratitude for your cycle, breathe out releasing and letting go. Breathe like this for a few moments, notice if anxiety or resistance rises. Stay with it. Keep breathing. The pain will slowly ease. A powerful sentence you can whisper to those parts of your body, is “I feel you, I love you – I feel you, I love you” – stay with your hands there. Bring all your love, recognition and compassion to those areas in pain. 

Women had experienced that pain reduces practicing this visualization over time . Practice Mindfulness cycle after cycle and your whole attitude towards your cycle and your body starts to shift.

The changes are more profound that what you can imagine.



Body Work that reduces PMS

The practice of the Self Actualized Woman consists in a sequence of restorative, calming and cooling postures to naturally alleviate any tension during the Creative Phase .

— Sitting forward bends done restfully with the head supported
— Lie back over a support to open the chest and extend and/or spread the abdominal region
— Lie on a mat and relax the lower back thanks to the force of gravity by lifting up and supporting the coxis area

As you practice this postures, breathe deeply : EASE as you breathe in, RELEASE as you breathe out. Cramping and heaviness in the abdomen slowly disappear bringing positivity and mental alertness.

Authentic Feminine Power

At the core of the Self-Actualized Woman practice are the four archetypes that made us whole as women. The Maiden (or Virgin) is the archetype that bring us endless energy to conquer the world. Enthusiasm, vitality, self-confidence and a tremendous power of influence. She is our analytical and rational mind. She knows the power of our presence as women, using all the resources she has to get what she wants.

This archetype is the one that supports most go getters and high-achieving women : In all these years of coaching corporate women and independent professionals, the number one thing clients are asking for is a more authentic way of being a woman – or using the femininity – without being “vulgar” or “taken for granted”…

In the beginning this always amazed me, and honestly I couldn’t really understand at first: being myself a go getter, a designer, ex model and body awareness practitioner, the idea of femininity being a weakness or threatening was not in my circle of reality. Soon I started to study European women’s point of view so I could understand and help in a much more effective way. 

When I understood the reasons of this point of view, I was not really satisfied so I had to look  back in our evolution and into very ancient teachings – what today I call the Grandmothers. How they explain why women are so afraid and do not trust their own power rooted in their own femininity.

Our grandmothers say that women lost their power and confidence when they started to wear trousers and walked away from the fire. For them, skirts is much more than a garment. A skirt is the symbol of power, of connection, roots and strength. It is what makes woman unique AND different from men. When women started to wear trousers, they were hopping to get the same opportunities than men, the same rights … forgetting their most sacred duty : to be true to her essence. The patriarchal society was born, and with it we became all lost in an endless egoistic battle for power (to do what?), recognition (to become who?) leading at the end, to isolation and separation.

Yesterday at the Self-Actualized Woman Cycle , the session was dedicated to the Maiden archetype and her energies, believes and behavior through us. Once again, it was empowering and enriching for us all to explore her in each of us through the bodily experience of her energy, to receive her messages that answered important questions to each participant.

The main believe that we explored in the circle was around seduction & manipulation, as if they are both the main characteristic of femininity.  Both in my private practice and in my circles and workshops, I work with incredible women with incredible careers and achievements of all kind, longing for loving relationships, for having kids (before it was to late), for having more peace of mind, creativity, time for themselves, or enjoying a much more healthy lifestyle. When exploring their personal roots to the disempowering beliefs around femininity, we found them in their relationship to their father (authority, leadership), to being born to a family who wanted a boy, or being the first daughter to parents who divorced too early and she took care of her siblings -to name the main ones.

I invite you to explore for yourself the meaning you give to and memories associated with the following terms, that define the Maiden in you : 


The conclusions of the circle were that we can actually develop our Authentic Feminine Power when we shift from any superficial image of ourself, when we get rid of old labels and stereotypes, and we dare to define on our own terms what kind of dynamic woman we want to be.

The Self-Actualized Woman does not rule the world. She is the world herself. And she creates her reality as she walks her own and unique path.

The practice of the Self-Actualized Woman- Body Mapping

BodyMappingSAW2The Self-Actualized Woman travels in her body. She gains full awareness and inner power. Her Body Map becomes the creative support that witness her process and allows her to explore and creatively communicate the stories that she lives in her body.

She knows that a woman who does not know her body and the power that inhabits it, can never develop her inner powers … For her, it is essential to heal this missing link. She wants to learn the value of each of the things that happen to her, the messages received through her body…

The Self Actualized Woman embodies everything that she is as a woman.

She has stopped to see herself as weak,  dirty or less … She stood up and raised for what it is true to herself !